You didn't know that the public education system went down the path suggested by sociologists that kids needed constant affirmation and that it was detrimental to children to participate and be denied a "trophy" or "ribbon" just like the actual "winner"? How old are you? This was a huge implementation in the U.S. public school system. It isn't a "theory".
Are you completely unaware what social issues are infused in modern public schools? Take a child out of the public school system and place them in a private school. Then, ask them to show you their course work and what the teacher focused on. My "claims" are outrageous? Prove me wrong instead of making the accusations that my claims are "outrageous".
And as for parents being such a major factor in education... neither of my parents ever did homework with me. They only asked me if I had done it. I did fairly well because they taught me personal responsibility at an early age. A typical conservative value. Is that specific enough? Gee, that's my personal childhood experience. How much more direct and specific do I need to get?