Byron Starks Jr.

[CajunT]

The worst thing that can be said, is I know how you feel. While our situations could be identical, our grief is always different. The best thing you can say is I am sorry, and I am here for you, whatever you need.

My son is has not passed, but his life expectancy is 5 to 6 years maybe. But the worst thing to hear is "God doesn't give you anything you can't handle." Most people mean well, but apparently, they never read the book of Jobe. I never proclaimed to be Jobe.

[RaginDave]

My son is has not passed, but his life expectancy is 5 to 6 years maybe. But the worst thing to hear is "God doesn't give you anything you can't handle." Most people mean well, but apparently, they never read the book of Jobe. I never proclaimed to be Jobe.

Cheerish every moment with him. Your story is not better, but at least you can prepare, doesn't make it any better, in fact could be worse. But love on your wife and his siblings and everyone who he touches and those that touch his life. I would give everything for just one more day with my boy.

[CajunT]

Cheerish every moment with him. Your story is not better, but at least you can prepare, doesn't make it any better, in fact could be worse. But love on your wife and his siblings and everyone who he touches and those that touch his life. I would give everything for just one more day with my boy.

Every day he is still with us brother!

[RaginDave]

Every day he is still with us brother!

I will add you to the prayer list my man. Can't imagine, really can't.

[DieHard 1280]

So sad to hear about this. Prayers for Byron and CajunT. Losing a child is my nightmare.

[CajunT]

So sad to hear about this. Prayers for Byron and CajunT. Losing a child is my nightmare.

Watching so many families lose children last week was enough to sober me up. Such tragedy to see so many children lose their lives suddenly and never get the chance to say goodbye.

[CajunT]

The worst thing that can be said, is I know how you feel. While our situations could be identical, our grief is always different. The best thing you can say is I am sorry, and I am here for you, whatever you need.

Thanks to you and Zoom. That burden you both carry is not something I look forward to carrying in the future.

[ZoomZoom]

For ALL, remember the word testimony starts with TEST. Whatever burdens, challenges and such are in front of you, there will always be people, mostly well meaning people, watching how you handle the test. Be that light in the darkness that life can be sometimes.

[RaginDave]

For ALL, remember the word testimony starts with TEST. Whatever burdens, challenges and such are in front of you, there will always be people, mostly well meaning people, watching how you handle the test. Be that light in the darkness that life can be sometimes.

well said, what we learned through this process is that there are people out there that will step up in your time of need that you did not expect. I laugh today, because a person who I knew (more of an acquaintance through another friend) was one of the first to reach out, what I didn't know was he and his wife had gone through a similar thing, he is now one of my best friends. He would come over to the house and just check in on us, his faith never wavered nor did his strength, he gave us insight on how they handled things and what they did. Things like this can tear a family apart and that was his biggest message, you and your spouse will grieve differently, be there for her when she is down and be understanding if she tells you she is struggling. His best advice was to imagine this being a 10,000 lb. chain around your neck and some days it is easy to carry, but many days that chain feels like it is 20,000 lbs. You cannot stop your life; you need to keep moving but understand that you and your spouse are going to have days that you just need a break or need a friend to be there for them.

Faith helps allot, the belief that I will see my son again someday, helps me move on. If I didn't believe that I don't know what I would do. My wife and I's relationship and faith in God is stronger than ever, and that is a TESTament to or love for one another. More relationships end due to the one spouse not understanding that the other person just needs you to be there, they don't need you to fix it, they need your love and companionship to help them wrap their heads around what has happened.

[CajunT]

well said, what we learned through this process is that there are people out there that will step up in your time of need that you did not expect. I laugh today, because a person who I knew (more of an acquaintance through another friend) was one of the first to reach out, what I didn't know was he and his wife had gone through a similar thing, he is now one of my best friends. He would come over to the house and just check in on us, his faith never wavered nor did his strength, he gave us insight on how they handled things and what they did. Things like this can tear a family apart and that was his biggest message, you and your spouse will grieve differently, be there for her when she is down and be understanding if she tells you she is struggling. His best advice was to imagine this being a 10,000 lb. chain around your neck and some days it is easy to carry, but many days that chain feels like it is 20,000 lbs. You cannot stop your life; you need to keep moving but understand that you and your spouse are going to have days that you just need a break or need a friend to be there for them.

Faith helps allot, the belief that I will see my son again someday, helps me move on. If I didn't believe that I don't know what I would do. My wife and I's relationship and faith in God is stronger than ever, and that is a TESTament to or love for one another. More relationships end due to the one spouse not understanding that the other person just needs you to be there, they don't need you to fix it, they need your love and companionship to help them wrap their heads around what has happened.

Great Testimonial Sir! That is our path!